Feeling as though you must reinvent yourself in January can always seem quite overwhelming, however it doesn’t have to be so black and white. Many people begin with an extensive range of hopes and dreams for the year ahead, but this can sometimes be more damaging than good. Having visions of being healthier and fulfilling everything on your bucket list, plus reading every day, eating perfectly, learning a language and investing more time into friendships, are all wonderful things which should be celebrated. However, they can be equally as damaging if you convince yourself that they will all be possible at once. You can be left feeling as though you have failed profusely, and sometimes end up giving up completely before January is even out. We have decided that to stop these feelings, it’s about time we share our top tips for sticking to, or taking slow steps towards, reaching some of your New Year’s resolutions.
GAIN SOME PERSPECTIVE
It’s extremely important, not only when embarking on a new year with fresh dreams, but any time of year, to have some perspective on your aspirations. It may be, for example, to begin a new journey of eating more healthily, in which case it’s a good idea to initiate this in the most practical way possible. Without allowing it to overwhelm your usual day to day routine, taking small steps to reaching these goals and understanding that things won’t change overnight, is an extremely integral part of maintaining the challenge you’ve set for yourself. Exercising every couple of days for example, is much better for you than putting pressure on yourself to go to the gym every day for a month. Not only is this an unrealistic goal but it will most likely result in you burning out and not wanting to go back until January next year. So take a step back from your goals, compartmentalise them, and know that it’s not a failure if you don’t perfect your initial goals within a matter of weeks!
ENJOY THE PROCESS
New Year’s resolutions can sometimes feel like the beginning of a “diet” on a Monday morning, however they would probably be much easier and simpler to maintain if they were something you genuinely felt you would enjoy in the process. It may sound simple but allowing yourself to enjoy the journey of fulfilling your New Year’s resolution will make it not seem like a chore but instead something that you really want to do. If you promise yourself you will practise yoga every morning for 2 hours and put the pressure on from the beginning, it’s highly unlikely you will end up doing it – allow yourself to simply want to practise yoga and it won’t feel like the chore it once did!
DON’T NECESSARILY SEE AN END
Like with a diet, it’s not always a good thing to try to see an end point with your New Year’s resolutions, as it can give you a false sense of not having to continue with it once that point is reached. Now obviously it’s not entirely the same if you wish to read a certain book or visit a country, as once you have fulfilled that desire, you are able to tick it off the list, however the same premise can lie in resolutions like this also; don’t just read one book, make it a goal to enrich your life more all the time by reading different genres by various authors, or by cooking a meal from a different cuisine once a week. Whatever it may be, don’t limit yourself to a time period, as the real satisfaction lies in enjoying the entire process.
DREAM A LITTLE
Setting goals that feel as though they are too farfetched to reach can either feel overwhelming or have the opposite effect: occasionally setting large-scale goals can sub-consciously encourage you to take small steps that are necessary to one day reaching those goals. Say for example you want to ‘one day’ own your own house but there is no way that in the near future your financial situation will allow you to do that. If you know that is something which matters to you, putting aside a little bit of money every week will help you on your way! If becoming fluent in a language feels a far cry from a reality, commit to learning one new phrase every day for example, you won’t be fluent in a week, but you may just be able to have a great conversation by the end of the year!